Encouragement For Today: You Are A Good Thing.

By T.D Jakes

Read Proverbs 18:22

Almost every single woman is consumed with the desire to get married. There are so many women who are longing for a relationship when they aren't entirely ready to receive it. It is the same even with married women, women in business and women in ministry.

If you are going to walk with God so that you can receive the best of everything, you must understand one thing. 

Timing is Everything.

When God prepares the right man for you, and you for him, that man will show up at the right time and so you must be at at the right place with the right perspective to receive all that God wants to release to you.

Proverbs 18:22 talks about a man, that when he finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favour from the lord. 

Often because of old issues that you haven't quite dealt with or old wounds that haven't healed, you may find yourself wandering around in a stupor somewhere, emotionally unprepared for a healthy relationship, then you won't be able to be the "goodness" that your husband is meant to enjoy in your relationship.

Unless you are healed and whole, your man will not feel that he is enjoying the Lords favour in his relationship with you.

If you are a woman in ministry or business, you must first submit to the Lord and seek him so that He can make your path straight.

Jeremiah 29:11-13 says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

For single women, the minute you understand that men do not exist to bring the favour of God into your lives, the better you will be able to deal with life's experiences. As Women in business or ministry, the minute we understand that only God can bring us profit and help us to bless people in a profound way, the easier our work becomes.

Every woman regardless of her position and desire needs Gods guardiance and favour.  The only way to get Gods favour is  by knowing the Lord passionately and intimately, by walking and working in His power and by worshiping Him with your life. 

Stop going around looking for a husband, for an idea, for an opportunity. When you walk with and in the Lord, he brings divine connections your way in a supernatural manner.

 When the hand of God is upon you and your business, you will not need to announce your success or arrival because your work will praise

you in the gates even before you enter into it.

God is a master planner, the best planner. No wonder the bible says seek ye first the kingdom of God and every other thing will be added unto you. Let go and Let God.

Do what you need to do in order to be fully restored and recompensed. Walk in obedience to the Lord, He will make you a woman of strength and grace and wholeness, and when He has touched your life, your business and your ministry will ooze goodness because the Lords hand will be upon it, and your husband will shout it from the rooftops "I have indeed found a good thing"

Original Title: A God Thing by Bishop T.D Jakes Woman Thou art Loosed Edition

Addtional Words and Commentart By Somethingblessedandbeautiful

How soon should we have sex! He is soooo Hot!

"How soon should it be before sex is on the table? It is just so hard to with hold it because he is so hot and that's all we think about...
Last night we kissed and I just cant shake that feeling off. His hands were so big and strong and...."
My friend was having this discussion with me yesterday. She is 23 and she's been dating this really good looking guy for about 6 months.

How do you discourage an independent single woman to lay sex off the table because that's what the bible says?
Why did God create us with raging hormones only for Him to say don't do it till he's put a ring on it?
First things first, just because He  is God and He knows best.
Secondly, Sex is so much more than satisfying that crazy sweet feeling and orgasming.
Sex  is spiritual. Yes it is physical with all the touching, bumping and grinding but it is more spiritual than physical and emotional put together.
When you sleep with someone, You make a covenant with them spiritually. I know that sounds heavy but it's true. Actually, you make a blood covenant and that is not something you want to play around with.
Have you ever thought about how you felt when you broke up with someone that you had been sexually intimate with? I'm not talking only about the emotional attachment that comes, but just somehow, how a part of that person remains with you no matter how far you have moved on with your life?
Sex is a soul tie. It binds people together and that's why it is better to be shared only in marriage. When you give a part of you to someone, you are getting a part of them also. Now if that person has multiple parts in him, you best believe that you are also getting bits and pieces of personalities, spiritually tied to you.
Isn't that just heavy?

Why would you want to exchange all this heavy serious stuff for 10 minutes of ephemeral bliss?
Sex is great, it's passionate, it's hot and much more but it's more than just getting some kinkiness because you feel like it.
In a relationship, sex is great but there are other great things to do with your partner. Sex will connect you but it will not keep you together at all.
A persons strength of character shows when he or she can display a high level of self control. If you can control this area of your life, then it will help in disciplining every other areas.
Do you know how a man's perception of you changes when you let him know sex is off the table? He might laugh about it to your face or walk out of the relationship but let me tell you something, he will respect you for the rest of his life.
Even if you have been doing the deed it's not too late to practice abstinence.

The truth about sex or safe sex is - it is not really safe. Condoms leak, STD's can still occur, unwanted pregnancies can spring up on you. Truth is, most condoms are 98.9 percent safe but you can be the 1.2 percent statistic.

"How about I don't have sex, then I get married and my husband is boring in that department?" My friend asked me as I talked with her.
"No biggies! all you gotta do is show him how to please you?" She laughed so hard and I did too. There is nothing sexier than a woman telling her man how she wants to be teased and pleased in bed. Forget 50 shades of grey, in the bedroom it is fifty shades of you.
 There is nothing wrong with being a godly woman and a freak in the bed for your man.
There's a lot of time for sex in marriage, and no matter how hot your husband is, there will be days you'll pretend to be asleep because you are just so tired.
So chill out, sex is a big deal. Don't give out all your goodies till its legit for real.
Let him put a ring on it, till then don't wind on it. Easy come, easy go. If he has to wait for it, he most likely is into you and will be sticking around for ever.
Good luck and Gods speed.

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Nope, He is married, He's not The One.

The only person who complicates your relationship is you honey, end of story.
When you say you are in a relationship but it's complicated, it's time to say goodbye to it because complicated is out and commitment is in.
 What does "it's complicated" even mean?
Does it mean that you are in love but can't receive the kind of love you want or does it mean that you are in a relationship only for some benefits? If you are in a relationship with a married man and you think you are in love with him, this article is for you.
If you are in a relationship with a married man for benefits, I'm not sure this will really do you much good. However, know this, you are so much better than that and the only person who cannot see or understand that is you.

If Sam keeps telling Susie that he loves her, would die for her, wish he met her eight years ago but just can't walk out on Susan and the kids. He is not only lying, he is irresponsible. Why do you want to be with a man like that?
While your name is stored as Plumber on his phone, there must be Carpenters, Painters, Drivers,  Bakers and maybe even a Florist on there as well, except that he has never sent you flowers.

Does it not bother you that you are wasting your time on someone you most likely will never have? If you decide that it is worth the wait, the wait of giving him sometime to leave Susan you are a joker. He most likely never will.
If you spend all your time clinging to this "complicated" thing how would you recognize your Prince Charming even if he rode past you on a stallion of a horse.

How about Susan? Did he tell you that they're not in love with each other or that they don't even have sex anymore? That line has been used over and over again. It has been used so much that it shouldn't hold much water with you.

Yes, married men have the allure of something exciting, they usually are stronger and more mature than single guys. They know how to treat women and meet their every whim and fantasy. Why not? They have had years of experience practicing on their wives, it is nothing special so don't be get carried away.
Why on earth do you want to be the reason for the breakup of a family? Why do you think being the other woman is not such a bad idea. It is. You deserve much more. You should be in a loving relationship where you can call or text your partner anytime without being nervous about it being seen by someone else.
You deserve peace, commitment and happiness in your relationship so don't settle for less.
You are a phenomenal woman, yes you are. It's time to cut ties, get back to God, ask for forgiveness and courage to move on with your life. It may seem hard at first but you will be glad you did because there is nothing better than living at peace with yourself.

These 3 tips should help you with shutting the door on an affair.
Say goodbye but never in person because it can lead to temptations.
Cut Ties and move on with your life by keeping busy.
Reinforce that you do not want to be contacted and stick to it.

Your Prince Charming is on the way and even if he is not just yet,  I can hear the ovation from the womenfolk cheering you on.