He talks about when to let go of relationships that have become un productive and negative. Read on for tips on how to read signs that you no longer need to pursue a friendship and share your comments with us too.
When you realise that a particular relationship is draining you, you are usually faced with the guilt of completely severing ties.
You should know that it is perfectly fine for your peace of mind and for you emotional sanity too to move on and away from such people.
If you are experiencing some of these signs in your relationship, it's okay to cut the cord and let go.
When you are no longer happy to be around the Person or People:
Once your instincts begin to tell you that there is a need for you not to be comfortable around certain people, it may be time to re-assess the relationship, move on and not look back. Our minds are easy to pick up signals quicker than our hearts, especially when we do not want to hurt people who are dearly loved. It's lovely to think about people and their feelings but if being around them weighs you down, you have to put yourself first and do the needful.
When they are filled with Negativity and Un-due Criticism:
Our mouths are our greatest weapons and people have the ability to speak things into existence. When you are surrounded by people who speak negatively, those words take on form and lead to disaster. People who complain constantly are ungrateful and that is not an attitude to surround yourself with because it can negatively impact you as well as influence your decisions.
You want to be around people who will encourage you and lift you up. Anyone who is constantly negative or highly critical of events and other people shouldn't be deserving of your time. You should be focused on positivity and improving yourself.
When the take more than they give:
You should be extremely careful of people who only take from your relationship. There really isn't a pretty way of categorising such people. They are users, end of story.
These people usually come around you only when they have a need thats a red flag. When you are in need, are they usually only half way there or not at all?
Relationships should be a blessing not a burden, when you sense that you are being taken advantage off please do not hesitate to move away as quickly as you can.
When you can no longer trust them:
T.D jakes describes this best as "Once trust is compromised it can never be the same, those who claim a space in your circle must be people that genuinely love you, are trustworthy and reliable."
Once betrayal has set in, truly forgive, truly forget and then truly follow the other exit. Full stop.
When they are no longer supportive:
Sometimes your greatest cheer leader becomes your greatest opposer. Feelings change because everyone is human. Jealousy and envy is nothing to be understood or judged with buttery teary eyes, it is evil and should not be entertained.
Do not feel bad that your friends are jealous because you have become successful overnight. True friends will support you no matter how great you become.
True friends will continue to support you no matter how low you fall.
Stay clear of people who bring you down rather than lift you up.
Whatever decision you take will impact your future negatively or positively. Carefully consider the wisest approach to handle all situations. Gods speed.
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